Saturday 3 February 2007

Marriage Is a Holy Relation-5


SEX IS NOT A CRIME:

            Sex is God’s idea. God created sex. He created male and female and he made
them attractive to each other, for procreation (reproduction) and pleasure. Since it was
created by God, sex cannot be sin, but it should be with only one person i.e. life partner.
Attraction is  quite common; it doesn’t  mean  that  you  have  to  enter into  sexual  relation with all of them. In such cases sex is a crime.

PREMARITAL SEX AND ITS IMPLICATIONS:

              
    Until  some  years  ago  premarital  sex  was  out  rightly  condemned  as  a  sin  and
anyone who had sex before marriage was looked down upon. Therefore there was a fear
in the hearts of youth. Even if they secretly committed the sex they used to feel guilty.
The first sex will  be in the mind for ever. If you marry the same person it may not show
much difference, but in case if you marry other only god can know your pain. Real y your
life will  become hell.

           Especially  the  girls  should  be  careful  about  the  tremendous  consequences  of
sexual union if the boy changes his mind after the event. She will  disappoint much and
they never come out of that until unless some miracle happens. Her disappointment may
be such that she might never be able to offer herself trustfully again to another man. The
memory  of  the  first  man  will  haunt  her  lifelong.  Often,  she  would  find  it  difficult  to  find
another partner because of the prejudice (injustice) of society i.e. boys against girls who
are supposed to  have  lost  their  virginity. The  consequences  of  an  eventual  pregnancy
are  too  serious  to  contemplate  (think).  Even  if  the  girl  gets  married  with  other  person, something  will   be  lacking  in  the  freshness  in  the  union.  Girl  can  never  be  happy  if  it happens  in  their  life.  So  my  dear  girls  be  careful  before  taking  any  decision  or  doing anything.   


FIRST SEX:

              Sexual union is nature’s bonding agent. Our first sexual involvement leaves an
indelible (impossible to remove) imprint. We are never the same again after sex-we are
part of someone else. This bonding is weakened by change of partner, and therefore the
more we change partners the weaker our capacity for staying together will be.

               So, if we have only one love, sex in marriage carries more weight, has a bigger
binding effect, has more significance, and means more to us, than if it were second or
the third time around. Every woman leaves herself behind with the man she has sexual
intercourse with, so in a very real sense she ‘is giving herself away’. If we do this with
more than one, there wilbe nothing left to give to the second one or third.

   It’s not only for girls; even boys will face the same problem, because, girls as
well  as boys have got, single heart which has feelings. My dear boys and girls remember
one thing, you may cheat anyone in this world, but you can’t cheat your heart. Please,
never cheat or play with the life of others; it’s a request from my side because I myself
had the traces of it in my life. I’ am leading a lifeless life with lot of pain inside. I can’t live in this  world, I  can’t  leave  this  world.  I don’t  know  how  is  my  future  going to  be.  So,   I don’t want any other to get into this kind of problems.

SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE:

              Deviant (unusual) sexual practice insults God’s beautiful design of our bodies,
and degrades woman. It denies the family ideal and has nothing to do with the children.
           Sex  before  marriage  hurts  because  it  reduces  something  new  to  the  level  of second-hand goods. It remains like a scar in your mind, and hurts throughout their life.
              Sex  with  others  when  one  is  married  to  someone  else  deeply  wounds  the
partner Left  behind,  and  breaks  the  solemn  marriage  vow  of  fidelity  (trustworthiness)  or
faithfulness.