EDUCATION:
Love
is the base
for healthy relationship.
Marriage is a
partnership of love;
the preparation mainly
consists in education
to love. In
practice love involves
a lot of
self sacrifice. Genuine
(real) love is not a mere romantic feeling, but a profound disposition (character)
to give oneself to the beloved and seek his/her good.
Education to love in marriage also
implies acquiring the right attitudes towards sex
and a habit of
self-control. Youngsters should be given accurate scientific information on
functioning of the genital organs. They
must be provided with an
understanding of the meaning
of human sexuality as an expression of marital love.
CHOOSING
A PARTNER:
Some
general principles about choosing a partner:
· Both
must have common values-personal/social/spiritual. It is very very important.
· If partner
is good (character)
and if you
feel that he
is match for
you, don’t consider any
other thing i.e.
religion, caste, background
etc because they
are
nothing in life.You
are the one who had to lead the entire life, neither your parents
nor
your friends.
· You
should respect the man/woman you marry.
· Never
get into relation who is different from you.
· Never choose
a person who
has the habits
like alcoholism, drugs,
gambling, cheating,
etc.
· Don’t
marry someone who is looking for a mother.
· He/she should
be at least
as intelligent as
you are or
on a level
to converse easily.
· Financial stability
of the husband
in order to
provide the basic
needs for the family,
independent of wife’s salary if she is working.
· Never
marry the one who loves you by your appearance or for your property.
REASONS
FOR UNHAPPY MARRIAGE:
· Lack
of adjustment to the situation i.e. at the time of problems.
· Conflicts
in values like money.
· Conflicts
in family relationships, friendly relations etc.
· Family
planning differences.
· Alcoholism/wife
beating/drugs/gambling/keeping relationship with outsiders.
· Conflict
in religion/caste/spiritual aspects.
· Conflict
In leisure/budgeting
· Conflict
due to misunderstandings’, hurting others feelings etc.
